What are outcome pictures? Are they something we need to learn about? Can outcome pictures be used to help us achieve BIG ideas? Our podcast guest uses what she calls “relationship photography” to help couples have outstanding relationships, and she says the relational photography method she uses can help us achieve our outcomes, also. Here are things we can learn from ST Rappaport about vision pictures and much other great stuff she said during the interview:
A Combination of Passions
We all have a passion that can be used to guide us in doing great things! Many times we don’t think about combining our passions to form a BIGGER idea, but when we do, we can do something extraordinary.
ST Rappaport shared how she combines her passions for loving others, connecting with people, photography, marriage, and looking toward the future to form what she calls the “relationship photography” method. This method that she created is helping her to help couples achieve their dream marriage.
Just like ST has combined her passions to create a way to help couples, we can combine our passions by doing something BIG!
Start With End Point
It’s great to have a passion or a combination of passions, which becomes our direction. This is essential for all people! We all need to know where we are going, or we will simply live the “status quo” lifestyle.
ST Rappaport told us that if someone does not know their direction, they need to ask these two questions using our dominant hand.
- Where do you want to go?
- What do I want to do?
Then, with our non-dominant hand, we need to answer the questions. By doing this, we will know our direction.
After knowing our direction, the next thing is to determine the endpoint for our direction. ST Rappaport shared the quote by Stephen Covey, “Begin With the End in Mind.” She said this is essential for all people who want to accomplish something. It may take work to know what the end of our direction looks like, but only after know our endpoint, can we move forward.
Plan a Pathway
The next question we need to ask after knowing our endpoint is what should we do now. The way this question is answered will be different depending on a person’s direction, but it starts with a pathway plan. This means how we can go from where we are now and move toward our endpoint.
ST Rappaport shared her plan in helping couples go from where they are now to their desired place. Here is the pathway she uses:
- Help them identify the desired outcome for their relationship.
- Take photos of the couple that communicates their desired outcome.
- Use the CJEA (Creative Journal Expressive Arts) method to help couples plan how to do their desire. This method guides a couple in creating a pathway they can take.
These three things help ST’s clients move from the “now” to the desired relational outcomes. The same pathway ST uses to help couples; we can do the same thing for our direction, and here is how.
- Identify the desired outcome for one of our desires.
- Take or created photos of the outcome.
- Plan the pathway to achieve that outcome.
Having a pathway will help us be ready to do the next thing.
Just Do It!
Once we have a pathway, it’s time to follow the plans. We often start actively traveling down the path, but then, we get off track. What can we do to reach our final destination?
Part of what ST Rappaport does it help couples do their plans. The method she uses comes from her CJEA training. Utilizing this training, she helps couples see what is stopping them from following their plans, and then, she helps the couples resolve the issues.
Part of doing our plans is learning what is stopping us, and then resolving the issues. This means we need to get in the habit of observing what is happening, so we can move forward.
We will have many challenges as we travel down our pathways, and we need to conquer our challenges. Many times “WE” are the biggest obstacle!
This is what ST Rappaport said when asked what couples need to conquer as they strive to achieve their marriage desires. She said that people’s past experiences hinder them from moving forward, and only when a person works through past experiences, will they be able to move forward.
Many times it is ourselves that we need to conquer. We may want to blame others or give excuses for our challenges, but only when we deal with our fears, inabilities, inadequacies, etc. will we conquer our challenges.
It’s Fun to Succeed!
One of the things that bring us the most joy is seeing our efforts being accomplished. It is definitely not enjoyable when we are seeing our desires not being achieved! This means following our plans will be enjoyable, even when we go through hardships.
ST Rappaport shared how everything about helping couples brought here a real joy. She did acknowledge that she does not enjoy some things because it is work that needed to be done, but in general, she enjoyed her direction.
We need to remember that most of the time, what we will do is enjoyable, but there are some things that we must do that may not be enjoyable. During the times when we are doing something we do not enjoy, the best thing to remember is the “Why” of our direction. By doing this, it will help us do the things that may not be enjoyable.
Create Outcome Pictures
One of the main things ST does is to make sure the couples she works with have photos of what they want their marriage to be or become. What ST does with couples, we can do the same for our desired outcomes. This means to create a picture of each of our desired outcomes and place the outcome picture in a place we will see often. By viewing the outcome pictures, we will usually be reminded of the “what” we need to do and the “why” we need to do our plans.
At the end of the interview, ST Rappaport shared how to connect with Her. She encouraged us to listen to her podcast titled, “The LifePix Relationships Podcast.” Here is a link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lifepix-relationships-with-st/id1500806965:
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